Viveka
November 9, 2018, 2:51am
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Dear Kstan, Please read the SC discourse guidelines here
This is a friendly place for Dhamma discussion
Participating in this forum should be taken as an opportunity to practice Right Speech. As such, please show the forum and your fellow practitioners the same respect shown in a temple. We, too, are a community spiritual center — a space to share Dhamma ideas, understandings and questions in a supportive atmosphere.
We are delighted to have you participate in this forum, but if you choose to do so please note that we will understand your participat…
Firstly participation in this forum is dependent upon agreeing to abide by the guidelines linked above.
Second, I direct attention to the following passage from the guidelines
Be agreeable, especially when you disagree
Be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if you disagree with some of what is being said. It’s fine if you do wish to respond to something by disagreeing with it: the Buddha said we should praise what should be praised, and criticize what should be criticized. But remember the advice of the Araṇavibhaṅga Sutta (MN 139): criticize ideas, not people .
Please avoid:
Name-calling.
Ad hominem attacks.
Responding to a post’s tone instead of its actual content.
Knee-jerk contradiction.
Passive-aggressive tactics.
Psycho-analysing other commenters.
Threatening people with kammic retribution!
Asserting that people do not understand your point of view because they are subject to defilements, and will understand it when they become enlightened, falls under the the two examples of unacceptable discussion methods highlighted in bold above.
Furthermore consider
Debate Constructively, Don’t Quarrel
Step away from discussions that have become combative. Rigorous debate can be an important part of Dhamma enquiry and many debates are recorded in the Early Buddhist Texts. However, it’s even more important to recognise the difference between a debate and a quarrel. The Buddha said: “I assert and proclaim [my teaching] in such a way that one does not quarrel with anyone in the world” (Madhupiṇḍika Sutta, MN 18).
Evaluating Your Posts
Before attempting to correct someone else’s ideas, use MN 103 and AN 4.100 to help you carefully assess whether making such a post would be wise. If you are unsure about whether your contribution will be beneficial to others because of, for example, its phrasing, or timing, try to find a better way to express yourself, or don’t post.
Discourse provides tools that enable the community to collectively identify the best (and worst) contributions: bookmarks, likes, flags, replies, edits, and so forth. Use these tools to improve your own experience, and everyone else’s, too.
Let’s try to leave our temple better than we found it.
Viveka
(on behalf of the moderators)
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