One possible way of understanding how there can be no suffering once Craving and Clinging for conditioned phenomena is ended, even though the conditioned phenomena continue to be perceived is described in MN101
âSuppose that a man is in love with a woman, his mind ensnared with fierce desire, fierce passion. He sees her standing with another man, chatting, joking, and laughing. What do you think, monks: As he sees her standing with another man, chatting, joking, and laughing, would sorrow, lamentation, pain, disuffering, and despair arise in him?â
âYes, lord. Why is that? Because he is in love with her, his mind ensnared with fierce desire, fierce passionâŚâ
âNow suppose the thought were to occur to him, âI am in love with this woman, my mind ensnared with fierce desire, fierce passion. When I see her standing with another man, chatting, joking, and laughing, then sorrow, lamentation, pain, disuffering, and despair arise within me. Why donât I abandon my desire and passion for that woman?â So he abandons his desire and passion for that woman, and afterwards sees her standing with another man, chatting, joking, and laughing. What do you think, monks: As he sees her standing with another man, chatting, joking, and laughing, would sorrow, lamentation, pain, disuffering, and despair arise in him?â
âNo, lord. Why is that? He is dispassionate toward that womanâŚâ
âIn the same way, the monk, when not loaded down, does not load himself down with pain, nor does he reject pleasure that accords with the Dhamma, although he is not infatuated with that pleasure.
IMO, Nirvana is simply about growing cool to each and every conditioned phenomenon⌠Samsara, women, family⌠even oneâs Body and Mind, by seeing them as they truly are.
SN18.10
Seeing this, a learned noble disciple grows disillusioned with form, feeling, perception, choices, and consciousness.
Being disillusioned, desire fades away. When desire fades away theyâre freed. When theyâre freed, they know theyâre freed.
AFAIK, Awakened Ones experience both Samsara and Nirvana, but having Understood, they no longer grasp ⌠not at conditioned phenomena (MN140)⌠and not even at Nirvana (MN1).
