It still belongs to you!
(Giving gifts of anger)
SN 7.2
The brahmin BharadvÄja the Rude heard a rumor that a brahmin of the BharadvÄja clan had gone forth from the lay life to homelessness in the presence of the ascetic Gotama. Angry and displeased he went to the Buddha and abused and insulted him with rude, harsh words. When he had spoken, the Buddha said to him:
āWhat do you think, brahmin? Do friends and colleagues, relatives and family members, and guests still come to visit you?ā
āSometimes they do, Master Gotama.ā
āDo you then serve them with a variety of foods and savories?ā
āSometimes I do.ā
āBut if they donāt accept it, brahmin, who does it belong to?ā
āIn that case it still belongs to me.ā
āIn the same way, brahmin, when you abuse, harass, and attack us who do not abuse, harass, and attack, we donāt accept it. It still belongs to you, brahmin, it still belongs to you!
Someone who, when abused, harassed, and attacked, abuses, harasses, and attacks in return is said to eat the food and have a reaction to it. But we neither eat your food nor do we have a reaction to it. It still belongs to you, brahmin, it still belongs to you!ā