Yes I came to that same conclusion, and was actually just doing further reading on it when your post came up
Not being ordained or trained in scriptures or the Vinaya, I admit to finding the cross relevance complicated and not-straight forward.
I’ve just been reading Ajahn Chah’s take on the matter, and realise now that utilising restraint for sense desires, and particularly for lust, is a specific technique used to enable clear seeing of the inconstancy and unsatisfactory qualities of conditioned sense desires, and developing a means to change habitual behaviour, in order to make it more mindful and heedful of all such reactions.
This doesn’t, however, negate the effect that there is more than one single sequence of actions that allows focusing on, or analysis of, mind states, and from there to do the investigations necessary for developing Nibbida. Especially when applying it to lay practice, where normally one doesn’t have the structures of the Vinaya to exert an effect. If breaking celibacy results in expulsion, for monastics, then that definitely has a significant impact as a motivating factor in choices that are made.
This is absent in lay life. As such, I find it reasonable to use any and all additional points of focus to lead to the same result, detachment and ultimately Nibidda for sensual desire - as in the personal example I gave.
If I may ask @Noahsark, and with regard to the OP, what are you wanting from this discussion? I’m unsure, given your points, if you think cellibacy is a good or possible practice, or if you are arguing that it is impossible?