Hello
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I believe it fundamentally boils down to right view. As much as you start seeing the world as an always shaking ground, with inherently no stability, you will develop “Nibbidā”, an emotion or sentiment I like to think of as turning away. But this emotion would lead to instability and madness in someone who has no other refuge to go to. But we do. We have the Buddha, the Dhamma, and the Sangha to “fall back” to. This is a stable refuge.
Adding to this, when you start living in a good way, making merit, being loving, you’ll be able to cultivate a sense of independent happiness, a sense of deep satisfaction that doesn’t rely on getting that premium subscription, having sex with that person, watching that movie show, because you learn that these are essentially super suffering and unstable anyway, and you turn towards the spiritual path, because here there is much more stability, much more satisfaction, much more happiness. The pleasure promised by the Buddha isn’t hollow and is much more long lasting and fullfilling, it’s awesome
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But we will always fall back here and there, until we attain stream-winning. Best to be patient and diligent.
I’d like to share these verses from Acharya Buddharkkhita’s translation of the Dhammapada:
Also this from MN 129:-
Furthermore, when a fool is resting on a chair or a bed or on the ground, their past bad deeds—misconduct of body, speech, and mind—settle down upon them, rest down upon them, and lay down upon them. It is like the shadow of a great mountain peak in the evening as it settles down, rests down, and lays down upon the earth. In the same way, when a fool is resting on a chair or a bed or on the ground, their past bad deeds—misconduct of body, speech, and mind—settle down upon them, rest down upon them, and lay down upon them. Then that fool thinks, ‘Alas, I haven’t done good and skillful things that keep me safe. And I have done bad things, violence and sin. When I depart, I’ll go to the place where people who’ve done such things go.’ They sorrow and wail and lament, beating their breasts and falling into confusion. This is the third kind of suffering and sadness that a fool experiences in this very life.
Furthermore, when an astute person is resting on a chair or a bed or on the ground, their past good deeds—good conduct of body, speech, and mind—settle down upon them, rest down upon them, and lay down upon them. It is like the shadow of a great mountain peak in the evening as it settles down, rests down, and lays down upon the earth. In the same way, when an astute person is resting on a chair or a bed or on the ground, their past good deeds—good conduct of body, speech, and mind—settle down upon them, rest down upon them, and lay down upon them. Then that astute person thinks, ‘Well, I haven’t done bad things, violence and sin. And I have done good and skillful deeds that keep me safe. When I pass away, I’ll go to the place where people who’ve done such things go.’ So they don’t sorrow and wail and lament, beating their breast and falling into confusion. This is the third kind of pleasure and happiness that an astute person experiences in this very life.
Bit more simpler advice would be to restrict your internet usage! The oldies might be right when they said phones are the problem.
Best of luck!