I use the eightfold path for each individual item that I need addressing in the lists I produced for desires, aversions and delusions.
So I take one item, say “anger with my wife when blah, blah”, and pass it through the moulinette of the eightfold path.
- what are all the aspects (pleasants, un pleasants, skillful, unskillful, etc.) around this situation. i.e. right view
- establish my resolve: intention
- watch my internal and external speech around this issue
- action: again speech
- livelihood: what in my life contributes to improving the situation or the opposite
- effort: quickly replace negative thinking about my wife by positive. i.e. develop gratitude
- sati: pay attention that my thoughts, speech, actions are as per my resolve
- samadhi: develop the Jhāna factor of sukha (joy, happiness) around my wife
With Metta