The friend-wife was sounding a good dynamic - up until the bit where they are not supposed to be angry when threatened with violence.
I apologise for going off on a tangent - but as someone who grew up as the youngest child and only female in a bunch of ‘rough & tumble’ male siblings … and with a legitimate violent psychopath & sociopath for my eldest brother, I find the Buddhas ideas here very unacceptable. 
Apparently, if he was my husband instead of my brother, then I would be the one going to hell for refusing to sweetly submit to his violence? Yeah, I don’t think so. I don’t accept having a male ‘pants package’ as a reason to be submissive to anyone else’s bad behaviour.
Sorry if it offends, but if the Buddha still existed I’d go out of body, try to hunt him down, and have words about that sutta. For real.
Go back on topic everyone. I’m just venting 
… and it’s not addressed at you specifically NgXinZhao 
Btw - I’m no longer angry about how I was treated. I’m grateful for the fortitude it inspired … and I even felt overwhelming compassion one day whilst being strangled unconscious. Who knew 
( surprised me) but it might be the only time I’ve ever felt that for him. Anyway, I’m good … I’m off to class for the evening … carry on.
