I have very much enjoyed reading some of the older Q&A and find it very helpful as Dharma sharing community.
This question came up after a talk I heard from Bhante @sujato where he talked that the whole education system being a bit nuts and we should just ask the kid to pay attention in class, take some time to meditate, and not do homework, tutors, and not worry beyond that (but I find it so hard to practice as a parent!)
In the grand scheme of things, my question is a very ‘minor inconvenience’ but hopefully the answers are generic enough to help others.
I could not find many discussions on parenting so ask my question:
While I find it relatively easy (ier) to not have too much desire for myself since I’m in a comfortable position in life and my path is just following the dhamma and living a simple life, I do catch myself desiring the best for my children and pushing them to study, work (very?) hard etc.
How does one balance ‘loving kindness’ that can (very quickly) turn into ‘suffering’ (especially as the way the teenager sees parents advice)?
I.e. the parent and the teenager have different views on what is correct and appropriate, we live in a society which is getting so competitive for the next generation.
What is the middle way?
How does one balance allowing a kid to make some mistakes and learn versus becoming overprotective.
I know part of the answer is that they will turn out fine and I need to practice more along the path(I just started doing metta… But I’m one of those lazy ones who want to do nothing during meditation so still waiting for metta to happen ), but time is short and they are off to college soon.