Sīla, samadhi, paññā - not a practice?

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Thank you so much for sharing in details your experience. My turn to do the same for the purpose of presenting how dealing with past traumas with my mother was so liberating and that pursuing this approach for my DADs in particular the A (Aversions, fears, ill-wills) has been so liberating for me.

As a boy I received several traumas from my parents in particular my mother. I was for 40 years very angry and resentful towards her and of course with the mixed feeling, she is my mother I should not have these feelings towards her.
Then after seeing the transformation in my wife as result of just a week of intensive psychological work in a retreat setup, I decided to do it (It’s called the Hoffman Process). In that week I went through the process of making peace with both my parents something I thought I’ll never be able to do in this life time. The key aspect of the process corresponds to the “complete view” component of the 8FP. This is where I join you saying that the 8FP is a tool for every moment of our life. From the “complete view” then we go to “best intentions” which have now a chance to succeed because we have seen the situation in all its facettes (negative, positive, dukkha) then we put in place these intentions using the next five components of the 8FP.
The result of this process was that now I can look back at all the events of my childhood with total equanimity.
I have been using this combination of Hoffman Process and 8FP very successfully to “dry up the remain of my past”.
I have just started presenting this method here in Perth: see “Transforming Emotions” in the following link: https://www.mindfulnessmeditationhubperth.com.au/emotions-mental-development-perth-classes/

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Nice to hear that you could make peace with your past!

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I don’t see any process that is helpful psychologically as incompatible with the Noble Eightfold Path. I would ‘file’ them under Right effort (samma vayama).

"And what, monks, is right effort?

"There is the case where a monk generates desire, endeavors, activates persistence, upholds & exerts his intent for the sake of the non-arising of evil, unskillful qualities that have not yet arisen.
"He generates desire, endeavors, activates persistence, upholds & exerts his intent for the sake of the abandonment of evil, unskillful qualities that have arisen.
"He generates desire, endeavors, activates persistence, upholds & exerts his intent for the sake of the arising of skillful qualities that have not yet arisen.
“He generates desire, endeavors, activates persistence, upholds & exerts his intent for the maintenance, non-confusion, increase, plenitude, development, & culmination of skillful qualities that have arisen: This, monks, is called right effort.”
— SN 45.8

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Can we say , anger is not the real problem here ! The dilemma is when we are place before circumstances and situations where one is to choose between
what " we want ! " and " we don’t want ! " , therefore , we are in conflicts ! Hence , anger arises !
In this division of our minds , the false “I” arises and forcing oneself to make a Stance ! And the outcome of the decision sometimes may not be so " nice " according to our standard ! But , it was already done and we are unable to revert back !