It was a good gesture, and I’m sorry I responded so bruskly. But just to explain, in the spirit of friendship: since you didn’t directly address or even acknowledge the points I brought up in reply to yours, it felt like you were just shifting the topic. Like, “OK, so that line of reasoning didn’t work, let’s forget about it and try another.” In that way there isn’t a mutual discussion, but just one person trying to convince another. That’s what it felt like, anyway, but I realize my mindset may have been a bit affected by the post preceding yours.
On top of that, it had nothing to do with SN22.81 specifically anymore, which after all is the topic here. It’s helpful to have an objective basis in a discussion, and that’s what the suttas provide. Of course, we all interpret the suttas in a certain way, but without reference to the suttas at all, it becomes purely personal opinion. On a site called SuttaCentral I prefer to stay more objective about things. What the absence of self means to me personally I therefore don’t find that interesting. (Also, as a Bhikkhu, we don’t try to discuss things in that way with lay people, to prevent making certain claims that are an offense in the monastic code.)
I hope you understand, and maybe we’ll continue this discussion somewhere else one day.