And so for a bit of tech and unintentional Dhamma! 
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By coincidence, I came across The Guilty Feminist only a couple of weeks or so before you posted here. For me, it actually spoke quite well to at least part of the reason why I’ve never been able to sign-up to feminism (it’s a nuanced, intricate point completely unsuitable for getting into via the typically quite crude medium of a forum so I’m not going to go into that at all, but I will stress how highly I value the desperately important work of so, so many feminists across the generations through to this very day).
All the same, there were a number of things I could enjoy about the podcast and it certainly made be laugh on a few occasions, but one of the things I found really difficult about it was how aggressive it seemed to be. This may just have been particular to the couple of episodes that I listened to, or the way I listened, but also perhaps a deliberate part of their brand. If it is, it’s all fair and good, I can appreciate that approach and why it seems suitable, but it just really doesn’t work for me.
The general point about how I personally feel a softer thoughtfulness, alongside compassion and the capacity to listen is the only real way to move forward positively was brought out for me when in the early hours I found myself listening to a Stack Overflow podcast.
As with the format of this podcast there’s a lot of fooling around at the beginning, but the show proper starts @ 29:30 and explores developer Jon Skeet’s work promoting inclusivity in the tech industry and further afield. I found it such a beautiful and inspiring account of how a person can meaningfully engage with the challenge of considering experiences from other people’s perspectives.
The reason why, for me, this discussion with Skeet is especially important and has something of value to offer any one, no matter which end of the ‘spectra of views and experiences’ they’re coming from is that it offers a eloquent description of the actual, fuzzy site where social change does or does not happen: in individual people who have the capacity to continually re-evaluate their views and actions in light of new, or overlooked data. Skeet’s brilliant example points to how this has to apply to everyone (that is, careful, kind listening is required of advocates, as well as ‘advocatees’ and everyone in between in order for folks to increasingly come into a common space), in so far as he himself both actively promotes inclusivity, but is also willing to take up the challenge to look at shortcomings in his own practice (facilitated by compassionate—seemingly the key ingredient, by his testimony—feedback).
There’s this marvellous bit at the end where Skeet talks about what he terms ‘a spectrum of welcomeness’. He describes how he (as heterosexual man) was made to feel so welcome at a Pride parade that he danced and he “just [doesn’t] dance!” but that’s just how good he felt being so warmly received. He notes that if people feel genuinely embraced with open arms that would quite obviously help in general, but would disproportionately help those who don’t feel welcomed elsewhere.
Sure, here’s a bunch of metta! 
for anyone that’s interested and has the time (which I don’t right now! So maybe one day…) 
