Thank you, Venerable @Sumanatissa,
No one is asking you to change your views, but just to have compassion and not be an obstacle in the path of others! That is all.
For if you find, say … a frog … that through some miracle speaks to you and tells you that it has awakened to the message of Buddha and seeks to practise all the way and attain deliverance; wow! you will feel so moved by this, you will be overcome by saṃvega, you will have tears in your eyes. I am sure you will help this frog at once, without thinking twice, without even taking the time to wonder whether it is male or female! “I will help you in every way I can, O frog!” I’m sure you will speak like this even before it asks for any help! I am sure you will build a safe home for it. I am sure you will be full of viriya and chanda the following morning in your alms round, because this time, and ever after, you will share part of your meal with the frog. I am sure this will inspire you in your own practice. I am sure you will be sad if any harm befalls this frog, and deeply worried if it one day suddenly disappears. I am sure you will be a faithful supporter to this frog. I am sure it will never occur to you to challenge or place obstacles in the path of this wondrous frog! I am sure you will utter a decisive “NO” to someone who tries to dissuade you from helping the frog, and that you will not stop helping it even if all other people in the world hate the frog! I am sure that your conscience will torture you that very day you stop helping the frog and leave it struggle in this dangerous world on its own. And it will be good of you, it will be right of you, son of Buddha, to feel and act in just this way.
How then do we feel and act differently, when the being that awakens to Dhamma and seeks liberation, is a HUMAN BEING ?!?!?! Just like you and me, venerable! How could any one not feel compassion, then?!?! And, moreover, how does compassion comes so readily for a frog but, for a human being, it turns into aversion and cruelty?!?! And of all people on earth, those not feeling compassion, those not caring, those even actively placing obstacles and challenges before women so as not to follow the Buddha’s Path, are themselves, ironically, “sons of Buddha”!! It’s mind boggling to me! It doesn’t make any sense to me! And it is nightmarish to me!!
The guiding principle in all our judgements and actions, whether over Vinaya or anything else whatever it may be, is compassion. And if because of the ignorance and fever that still reigns in our hearts, we sometimes forget this guiding principle, or neglect to apply our hearts to it, then at least we should make amends for it and strive to become more established in compassion. But to become alienated from compassion, and to rationalise indifference and cruelty; that is certainly not the task and duty entrusted to us by Buddha.
Satto saṃsāramāpādi, dukkhamassa mahabbhayan.
The hearts of all beings, are grasped by horror and fear of this realm of perpetual suffering. All beings without exception, including you and me venerable, seek nothing but protection and refuge from this unending hail of suffering, that haunts us even in our sleep! No one, man or woman, would seek to go forth, and stay gone forth, for any other reason, or without true faith in their heart, that Buddha, Dhamma, and Sangha, are just that protection and refuge.
I wonder; what kamma there is which accumulates in the heart of one who actively challenges and prevents the going forth, even of a frog?!
May all beings be forgiven.