Suppose for example that someone (like probably the Buddha or maybe you) has a great impression on the heart that the world is unreliable, not trustworthy, it is unsafe with it’s impermanence, sickness, decay, death, sudden changes, instability, unpredictability. In some sense it is a fearful place to live in.
Not every person seems to be affected in the same way, but I think many people become anxious when they are in an intense emotional and personal way confronted with decay, illness, death.
Experiences which have made a great impression on the heart. Maybe a parent who died, maybe a loved one, maybe because you yourself became very ill. The perspective on life can change so dramatically. One becomes even more attached and protective while confronted with suffering.
I belief the Buddha was very aware of an unsafe world and being without a real refuge, being helpless, without real protection. I know the texts also refer to an endless rebirth but I cannot really relate to that perspective because I do not have this. It is not my knowledge (yet). So, for me, the Dhamma is especially about finding a refuge, protection.
I can understand that refuge, protection can never ever come from grasping and attachment. At the same time it’s hard to let go. It is like a person who practices the Dhamma for many years and gets the message he has cancer and will soon die. His mind still becomes full of hope and fear and they grasp at any means to live longer. The longings in the heart are so strong. The longing to continue living for example. The longing not to become ill in a way one can hardly bear. The logings that others not suffer. The longing that anything goes well.
I have contemplated on anicca, dukkha, anatta, death, decay, illness, but I cannot confirm it really uproots those longings. Maybe a little bit. There seems to be something else needed .
What do you think misses? What do you belief is crucial? Is it that one does to stop valueing life that much? Is that the key? Do you think it is possible to value life greatly and to uproot the longings in the heart? Or is this an impossibe combination?