Since Bhante has opened the lid, I’ll add a comment. Earlier I sent this as a private message to Grace, but others may also find it interesting.
Hi @GRACE, thanks for your question. When you look up past discussions on the topic it’ll help if you spell it garudhamma (one word).
As a nun of 21 years and bhikkhuni of 17 years, in my experience, the garudhamma only have occasion to bite when living in a shared (bhikkhuni & bhikkhuni) [edit (bhikkhu & bhikkhuni)] monastery that keeps the garudhammas, a rare combination to find. That’s where you’d have to see young freshly-shaven bhikkhus go ahead of elder bhikkhunis in the lunch line, day after day. But for me, though such a spectacle would’ve been appalling in my younger days, after so many years more experience, I just really don’t care. It’s trivial. So long as we’re not suffering extra burdensome chores based on gender, no problem!
With all but a few of us bhikkhunis living in different monasteries from bhikkhus, though the G. rules sound intimidating, they end up having only two significant impacts that come mind offhand.
(1) They cause us to seek out teachings from the best monks, the awesome famous ones whom we’d never have had the nerve to bother if not compelled by the rules. It’s a blessing. (Same thing with reaching out to monks for connection during Vassa.)
(2) The G. require dual ordination, a ceremony which is lovely and beautiful, uniting our male & female Sanghas, and which becomes problematic only due to the reluctance of many monks to ordain women thereby limiting our opportunities. That is a modern (and temporary! and rapidly improving!) issue, not the Buddha’s intention.