I have often read that an Arahant could not be married according to the Theravādins, and that therefore if one reached this level of enlightenment by being married he would very quickly leave his wife to become a monk, having no sexual desires at all and having abandoned the attachments of romantic love. Even the non-returners can stay in their homes but no longer romantically love their wives, no longer have sexual relations.
Among the Mahāyānins, it would seem that a householder could achieve complete enlightenment while remaining married to his wife and continuing to love her romantically.
Does the EBT speak of this subject somewhere, or are these later traditional interpretations? What does the Pali Canon say? What does the Chinese Canon say?
I am very interested to know if the āgamas talk about this subject and if so, do they say the same thing as the nikāyas?
The Dhammapada also seems to consider romantic love as a hindrance that will have to be abandoned in fine:
Therefore do not hold anything as loved, for losing those who are loved is loathsome.
There are no knots for those who hold nothing as loved or as unloved.
From love there arises grief, from love there arises fear,
for one who is free from love there is no grief, how is there fear?