A monastic is one who goes forth /away from household life and its duties.
The monastic must abandon the intentions and duties of a householder and cultivate intentions and duties of a renunciant.
The general intentions of a householders:
Wealth, family, intimacy, work, completion of work projects, developments of society, enjoying the senses, adornments, power, authority, safety and security, fame, honour,praise etc
The general intentions of a renunciant:
Seclusion, nonentanglement, restraint, wisdom, easy to look after, patience, humility, reliance on what is easily obtained etc
It’s for each person to know for themselves which of those intentions and their subsequent actions are present within them.
It’s not exactly easy to see a persons or even to know ones own intentions ,but one can infer the intentions from seeing what actions are performed.
Certainly in most monasteries the monastic’s look and act as though they were employed, there are many positions that are held e.g project manager, maintenance manager, organising lay events coordinator, kitchen manager, IT consultant and implementor, guest monk, secretary, master of coin etc
All the work is done, surrounded by others. One works, eats and pujas with many other people, regardless if there is a vow of silence, still one is surrounded by others.
The work inherently involves quite a degree of entanglement.
The monasteries are quite luxurious and way beyond what an average householder could afford, and the cost of running such places and activities are immense and so there is pressure to get funds to maintain the buildings which require someone to create more projects to try to get funds and so that one can build more and maintain more and work with more people etc all in the name of developing the ‘sign of the renunciant’ or Dhamma.
There is also within such places the ‘authority’ the one who has the power. The monastics are the bosses and the rest are like servants, there to do the masters bidding, there to offer the masters their afternoon sweets.
This is very similar to being ‘lord of the manor’, your house is massive and you have loads of servants.
However, It does not matter how big your house is or how much requisites come your way, its your actions which determine what you are.
Do I act in accordance with the duties of a householder or a renunciant?
You can dress up like you want, but your actions will reveal your intentions and that can reveal what you actually are.
Living in a spiritual family run business/ modern day monastery will most likely influence your decisions and intentions. The business demands participation, which will entail household duties.
Every lifestyle and environment will require some sort of corresponding support and maintenance, even the tree needs to be cared for.
By having intentions of renunciation, remembering them and acting in accordance with them, ones life will be moulded by them(as a layperson or monastic); and the way that it will manifest exactly is not certain i.e one could end up under a tree or inside a palace, with a robe or not. Either way one who develops and maintains such intentions of renunciation will eventually not care because wherever he dwells, he dwells like a god.