I have been married 15 years. I feel like the luckiest guy alive. Honestly, I do. I know some may think that sounds delusional but that is the way it is.
I am overwhelmed by such an amazing sense of gratitude for the love my wife has given me. I sometimes can’t believe that someone could love me the way she does. I know nothing lasts forever, but I truly cherish what we have. There have been times, particularly early on in our marriage, when I was a real dead-beat. I was self-centred, selfish and had a really high opinion of myself. My wife has been so forgiving. She has put up with a lot. She has humbled me and brought me down to earth. She has been a mirror for me, sometimes she has been extremely patient and other times, she has just cut me right down.
Aside from my mother who worked so amazingly hard to raise my sister and I all on her own, my wife has been the most influential woman in my life. Add to that our two teenage daughters who both continue to inspire me for so many reasons (we also have a 5 yo son who is an absolute angel) and I am surrounded by females to whom I owe so much. In addition there is my female boss, who is an incredibly dedicated public servant, and you can start to see why I am passionate about gender issues.
There is nothing I would not do for my wife and children. For my wife and daughters, I will do everything in my power to see that they can reach their full potential, both spiritually and worldly. Some may say that trying to elevate women’s status in society goes against the laws of nature, kamma and even the teachings of the Buddha, and is fool-hardy but I don’t care. The gratitude I have towards my wife, daughters and mother moves and drives me to think, speak and act this way. I will continue to promote these ideals of gender diversity and equality. Am I banging my head against a brick wall? I don’t know, but it feels right and I’ll keep doing it. Does this go against the Dhamma, I don’t think so, but I am prepared to take that risk.