Hi @Luis
I find this quit fascinating. I have not real answers yet, at most an approach.
At this moment i cannot belief a Budddha arises in the world with the purpose all living being go out like flames and cease to exist at the moment of death. But that is the only possible outcome if a living being is nothing more than a name or designation for rupa, vedana, sanna, sankhara and vinnana.
Well, that all ends at death, if liberated. So there is also nothing left! There is no one realising a parinibbana after death, because nothing goes further when rupa, vedana, sanna, sankhara and vinnana end at death. IF we would only be rupa etc.
There is also no one to merge with Nibbana, there is simpy a definite ending of a lifestream when a living being would be nothing more than rupa, vedana, sanna, sankhara and vinnana.
I do not belief this can be true. For me this is negative. In this case Buddha-Dhamma would only be a way to end a life-stream in a definite way. That would be the only result. Parinibbana would , in this case, only refer to the non-existence anymore of a former lifestream consisting of rupa, vedana, sanna, sankhara and vinnana.
I feel this is really absurd. What is holy about this goal of going out like a flame?
For me, Budddha-Dhamma is about discovering the truth about ourselves. And we cannot really find this truth when there is Me and mine-making. MN2 is often refered to. But it does not teach that Buddhism is not about finding ones true face, but it teaches that it is not wise to approach this manner in an intellectual or psychological way and keep asking things like ‘what am I or who am I’.
Then one becomes trapped in self-views. The answer to the question must come from experience, direct knowledge.
We are now as a frog in a well. If the frog would ask "what is the world?’ it’s answers are limited to the well. So his answers are limited. The same way, if one start on the Path questioning: “who or what am I”, answers are also limited by our perception which is formed by active delusion, by are tendencies, by are impurities, by our self-views, etc. This is not the right way.
But MN2 does not say that Buddhism is not about identity because it clearly is. It is all about identity. How we perceive ourselves, who we think we are is of great concern. How can there be an end to suffering if we do not see there is inside not an entity suffering or carrying the burden of suffering.
This solution to suffering is closely related to understanding ourselves but we cannot really understand ourselves when we are still full of impurities. That’s why the Buddha teaches not to focus on identity but to focus on purirication and abandon craving. Then the identity issue becomes more and more clear. Thent our answers become less and less limited and maybe some day we also really realise the cessation of Me and mine-making and then our answers of what or who might become clear.