I love how, on numerous occasions, @Brahmali and @sujato, demonstrate how to disagree skillfully and kindly. Watching these interactions is a wonderful teaching.
And while @Brenna, @Cara and myself are not so experienced or knowledgable - and we certainly don’t have the advantage of keeping such beautiful sila/restraint - we certainly don’t agree with each other all the time. We do however, respect majority decisions and try actively to work harmoniously and to move towards consensus.
We are doing the best we can and, I’m sure I can speak for Cara and Brenna when I say this, we are truly grateful for the opportunity to volunteer our time for this amazing resource.
The experience of moderating here has thrown up some strange and unexpected problems and difficult decisions had to be made. Much of what goes on is unknown to others and some truly weird stuff has cropped up.
One thing we will always attempt to do is to protect this space, to keep it friendly, gentle and harmonious. Others, in so many threads, have also shown how to disagree with courtesy. This is a truly marvellous thing. One can disagree in a friendly manner.
To be clear though, we moderators are not always going to come across cuddly and warm and fuzzy…some things can’t be sugar coated. Even the monastic rules have this aspect to them (eg: the parajikas!)
And please remember, we’re not robots. We’re doing the best we can. Forgive us if we pull you up on something, have a conversation about it but, move on with grace. And remember, while we try to work within policies and guidelines, we also aim to look at each situation on it’s merits.
And finally, we’re not always going to see everything and be everywhere; nor are we going to be able to respond to everything immediately. We also have other commitments and demands upon our time. But we’ll do our best to get back to you.
Thanks everyone for doing your best too. I am sure everyone is striving to come from the 3 Right Intentions of Renunciation, Loving Kindness and Compassion. Thanks also for raising flags. It helps because, as I already said, we can’t see everything and be everywhere.
Cara and Brenna, I love how we think differently and are so polite when we disagree. I love that I don’t know either of you terribly well and that we’re half a world away from each other. Sometimes, the internet really can be rather useful!
Well, that’s all.
Metta