The traumatized mind has a tendency to withdraw itself from what is seen, heard felt, known. Like it is not really present. That is ofcourse understandable ,because while intense painful things happen to you, the mind wants away from it. So the traumatic mind is like a mind that is not really present in the world. There is always some veil between this mind and the other person, the world. When this veil becomes really dense then one start to feel like one does not exist, like one has no self, is not really present.
We all have to find a way to re-find trust again, faith, the love, the wisdom, the support that helps us to be open and be fully present in the world. That is a very scary process when you are traumatised. But i hope, i pray, may we all find a way to open our hearts again. May our heart be free, liberated like the Buddha’s.
Never ever doubt the beauty, the goodness, the purity of the heart. Of no person. Not yourself, not Trump, no person, no animal, not Mara. We do not have to doubt the purity of the heart. That is the message of the Buddha to all beings. The heart is not the problem.
Life is difficult but with traumatic experiences it becomes even more difficult. Talking can help but also EMDR for example. Sometimes talking does not help and one must find other ways, as it were, to re-wire the brain.
A Buddha is fully present in the world. There is no veil between him and the world. He has opened his heart fully. . One thing is physical pain, decay, loss, but the pain of a heart that is not open is really a burden. A heart that has problems to trust again. How can one trust people when people have shown to be butchters, abuser. How can we trust life if it shows to be so unsure, unstable, with so much violence, conflict?
Well…euuhhh
The open heart has so much to give. It is a wishfulfilling jewel. We can feel the beauty of it.
The Path removes all that closes the heart, all the veils too.
It is very normal that confronted with suffering, intens painful experiences, trauma’s, our heart more or less closes. This also happened to the Buddha. He was heartbroken. In a sense we all need a doctor to cure our heartacke. A medicine. Not only traumatizes people.
Especially buddhist
There is so much misunderstanding, sorry to say but there is. Anatta is not some Path to become a selfless machinery or some Path to reduce oneself to mere impersonal physical and mental processes.
All the instruction of the Buddha are only to become fully open hearted. That is just the same as detachment and the pacification of all defilements.
It was only in full open-heartedness that Buddha was able to defeat Mara. For he long he practiced rejecting, accepting, welcoming, abandoning, blocking, remedying… but this never led to his awakening. Only when he was fully open towards everything things were falling in place.
Dhamma certaintly gives one tools to gradullay, slowly, patiently become more open hearted again after ones heart is broken or hurt. Find trust again. But, with a mental disorder, one must always also and, probably first of all, seek therapy, i believe.
But ofcourse we all are mentally sick. Disorders are gradual.