@vimalanyani
Dear ayya , I understand you are going for higher ordination , best wishes to you .
According to vinaya , after the ordination you have to stay five years with your preceptor for learning . Nowadays , this thing never really being follows , but , it is up to individual . I have seen many people including samanera and new bhikhhu whom regard themselves as being "under controlled " , subjugated by someone else , and at the end either they find their own place or space or finally disrobes ! Therefore , not only that the females having this situation .
If you find that many “minor” rules where today many seems to disregard , that is something I hope you don’t lightly to abandon . I don’t know you or other people , but as an ex samanera nearly for a year , I served and running around helping nearly everything in the temple and learned quite a lot from it . I bowed to a new bhikhhu whom are much younger than me . I was ordered around by senior samaneras and bhikhkhus , from sweeping the floors cleaning the halls , washing toilets , washing the robes , serving the seniors etc , you name it . Don’t think it as an oppressions !
Life in the monastery with a strict vinaya being upholds is very beneficial and conducive for trainings in the dhamma . These things about vinaya is difficult for everyone to uphold .
If you do find the “minor” rules are unrelated to your trainings , that is totally up to you . However , the whole thing about vinaya was laid down by an Enlightened Buddha himself , and I would think , unless if you are capable of attaining Liberation or get enlightened , otherwise , bear in mind that you are trying to do something according to your defiles mind in which will change the whole of the vinaya and dhamma which you should be very very careful !
I would think you are a very intelligent and capable person in many aspects , but , the trainings as a laity and in monastic lifestyle is not the same thing . Don’t bring all your mundane mentality into the life of a renunciate , that will prevent you from attaining Liberation . All the things you have talked about may become your own barriers and obstacles to your trainings .
I have seen many intelligent bhikkhus disrobes either because of desires , or they can’t live under others . Because they have too much views and prouds in the mind . When we are too intelligent we will tend to loose hold of our self as conceit take holds . There were many intelligent bhikkhus with many (10/20/30) rains retreats regressed in the trainings after they became famous and too much social activities .
Anyway , I could be wrong as well , but , did not the Buddha set the rules that allow females to Ordain Once only in a life time , that is a very limited chance to practise . If you think it in terms of equality , that according to today view is not democratic .
All the best to you . Smooth and safe journey to your ordination destination .
Ps. There was an old monk gave me an advice , the minor rules helps one to develop humility and khanti as well .
so you see what I mean, even with a perfect vinaya, it’s all about who is in control of reality.
it is sunny and the breeze is cool, and nothing is personal, unless there is a soul, and there ain’t. 
