I’m pooling EBT teachings and sources on sensuality and would like to share what I have including my observations, so far. Please join in and let me know if you have any good suttas or personal observations.
Actions: sexual misconduct
Intentions (cetana): to break precept/perform sexual misconduct. This is unwholesome kamma (akusala kamma)
World views, (ditti): sexual misconduct is not a problem, ‘free love’; it’s impossible to live without sex, celibacy is ‘unnatural’.
Values: how highly sex and sexual freedom is valued (over purity/peace of mind?); social norms-open marriages.
others: sex as a coping mechanism and a substitute for affection-love/ relief from boredom ‘something to do’/feeling empty and incomplete without sex.
Labelling - sensual ‘labelling’ (kaama sanna) of (non-sensual) matter (rupa)…
Emotions- (defilements)- craving/lust -kaama-raga
Intention (cetana): to break precept/perform sexual misconduct. This is unwholesome kamma (akusala kamma)
Contemplation of one’s precepts ( in terms of harm caused to self and others, from breaking them)- reviewing one’s precepts from time to time.
Practicing the foulness of the body (asubha sanna), cemetery contemplations, elements of the body contemplation
Strengthening fear and moral dread (hiri- otappa)
Practicing metta meditation, contemplating the qualities of the Buddha (Buddhanussati), etc.
Practicing suppression of the 5 hindrances through samadhi,
Practicing wise contemplation (yonisomanasikara) around sexual misconduct,
Not seeing the drawbacks of sexual misconduct,
Inconsiderate exposure to explicit material/situations/people.
Knowing the limits of sexual gratification.
Letting others control one’s sex life or having no choice in this.
Association with kalyanamittas (who can be protective as well as informative), including reading the EBTs regularly.
Understanding the issue is an internally generated one
Realising that control is possible, gradually with practice
The more you do it the more the mind is habituated to think down that line
There is never any permanent and final gratification in it.
The ‘grass is greener on the other side’, is always an illusion.
Money is a gateway for obtaining sensuality.
There are EBTs with some more material around this.
AN6.45: AN 6.45: Debt (English) - Chakka Nipāta - SuttaCentral
AN6.63: AN 6.63: A Penetrative Discourse (English) - Chakka Nipāta - SuttaCentral
Thag 7.1: Thag 7.1: Sundarasamudda (English) - Theragāthā - SuttaCentral