For nearly everyone, there are some “difficult issues” which will cause us to speak and respond “like bookish people with low emotional intelligence”.
The internet seems to bring out this behavior a bit more than in other social situations but it does occur frequently outside of the internet context.
I have the thought experiment where everything I said was recorded, transcribed and publicly posted. Doing the first two for a time might be a very educational practice.
Some communication coaches strongly suggest recording and sometimes transcribing important conversations for latter review and reflection. Researchers do it as part of the research methodology.
Research into this topic is explained more in these posts:
