Recently, a Sinhala movie called Yasodara was released. They used a lyric stated as " She is the Buddha’s chastity", which is wrong.
The question above sounds the same.
Was Buddha an irresponsible husband and a father?
This is not the way that you should ask the question!. In the western perspective, this may be considered right, but the bodhisatta and the Buddha are not the same. Buddha was passionless (Vītarāgī)and had no bonds with others.
Therefore, you would rather ask the question as,
Was Bodhisatta (siddarta) an irresponsible husband and a father?
Its interesting to question the question. So reading this last post I have a question .
As an unenlightened being, is it worth risking everything to find what nobody had yet found at the time?
Which we can further simplify:
Can you or should you give up everything you have and are in search for what most human beings are searching for happiness, freedom from bondage, release?
I hope you all would excuse me for digging up this old thread, but recently, I came across this quite old article
Although its quite unfactual and misleading, one phrase which struck me was this:
We can trace, at least one major tributary of this idea (i.e. misogyny) to the Vinaya Pitaka of the Buddha, who abandoned his wife, without her consent.
(Emphasis mine)
Which led me here to D&D to verify if it’s indeed true, which Ven. @Brahmali clarified:
I must admit I was at a loss of words whenever someone brought up the topic of Buddha abandoning his family, which many say was selfish (and that too without even informing them). Thankfully, this thread puts that objection to rest
Could you please specify the source of this? Is it from the EBTs?
IMO …This entire idea of sneaking out in the middle of the night comes from the romanticized novels/ translations of the late 19th and early 20th century, such as Edwin Arnold’s “The light of Asia” and Herman Hesse’s “Siddhartha” which became extremely popular with the in-crowd of that time.
Though this episode isn’t in the EBTs, it is actually a stock feature of later Indian Buddha biographies. For example, the Pali Nidānakathā.
What does come from the EBTs is the detail about going forth because of samvega and disgust arising at the sight of sleeping nautch girls in the aftermath of a soiree. The difference is that in the canonical texts this happens to Yasa, not the Bodhisatta.
IMO, it’s not relevant to apply the mores of the modern nuclear family to the age of the Buddha. The nuclear family developed in the 20th century.
In any form of extended or clan society there are sure to be parent substitutes around, and servants and slaves in wealthy households as well. The Buddha’s father most likely saw himself as responsible for his young son’s wife and child, whether Gottama was at home or gone.
Indeed, but we also see in some texts that this family system did not prevent Suppabuddha, the father of Buddha’s ex-wife from bearing a grudge against him. Clearly, they weren’t used to such situations or held renunciation in high regard.
Certainly Bhante.
This is just speculative, but the later biographies seem to use
1.) The episode of four sights from the story of previous Buddha (Vipassi ?)
and
2.) Yasa’s account of going forth after getting disenchanted with sensuality (edit: unbeknownst to anyone in the dark of the night )
to fill the gaps in the story of Buddha’s renunciation. The sutta reference where the Buddha clearly says that during his going forth, his parents were present and crying got totally sidelined. Wouldn’t the compilers of his biography be acquainted with the suttas?
Possibly, though I don’t see that there was really any gap that needed filling here. And so I’m more inclined to think that this part was inserted just to add spice to the story.
I can certainly imagine they were shocked when he declared his intent to go forth. But we don’t know the details or timeline of how this played out. Days, weeks or months could have passed between his announcement of intent of renunciation and the day he actually went forth. At the time of his departure there would be a culmination of high emotion running within his family. And I don’t see his ethical makeup as one who would would just kick his wife and child to the curb without making sure that their well-being was taken care of. We don’t know what preparations he made before he shaved his head and beard, donned his robes and set out.
This was what I actually meant when I said elements of Yasa’s story were taken to fill these gaps Ven @Dhammanando ! Along with the Great escape episode in the middle of the night.
Sorry if my framing of words couldn’t convey that; I have edited it.
Also as you said , this bit must have been inserted to add spice, after all , if non-human beings take part in the going forth of a disciple, then certainly the going forth of the Bodhisatta should be even more cinematic!
Absolutely. Not only that, but there were sure to have been reciprocal relationships in place which would assure that Gotama’s family was taken care of. Especially since he was a warrior class male, who frequently left the tribe for military campaign. For a male to leave the community for extended periods of time was not an unusual thing, and would have happened often whether the Buddha had chosen to renounce or had become a warrior. The only difference is that he chose to join a wandering band of ascetics, instead of a wandering band of raiders or soldiers. Instead of returning with enemy booty and slaves, he returned home with the Dhamma. The comparison between warrior and ascetic was often made, and can be seen in the often militaristic language that is used to describe an ascetic’s striving.
This actually reminds me of the version of Buddha’s renunciation found in Dr. B. R. Ambedkar’s book ‘The Buddha and his Dhamma’.
Here, not wanting to be party to a war, the Bodhisatta takes pabbaja as a middle way between war and social boycott of his family (for not participating in war). Curiously though, although the book draws quite frequently from the Buddhacharita, this reason is nowhere to be found in it or in any of the surviving biographies.
You can read the book here
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