I wish to find and form a close circle of kalyanamittas who share both a mutual interest in studying and practicing the Dhamma-Vinaya of the Buddha together as well as complementary (though not necessarily identical) ultimate aspirations (i.e. the overall direction and destination one subjectively wishes to end up in - to better gauge whether our paths would likely diverge anyway or converge eventually).
The former (mutual interest in Dhamma-Vinaya) seems like “a common ground and foundation” while the latter (complementary ultimate aspirations) seems like “a mutual interest and goal.”
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Because, like all beings, I have limited time and resources to spend, I wish to invest, devote, and prioritize spending more and more time and resources associating with those who have a mutual interest in not acting contrary to the Dhamma-Vinaya and acting in accordance with the Dhamma-Vinaya.
I think that the majority of the beings that I know in person do not share my interest in the Dhamma-Vinaya. Unfortunately, this seems to make me feel lonely to some degree, regardless of the quantity of family and friends that I already do happen to have. Therefore, I am hoping to find beings () on SuttaCentral with whom it would be most suitable for me to associate with.
It seems to me that a being is:
an unsuitable associate to the degree that associating with that being leads to the increase of harmful qualities in one’s mind and the decrease of beneficial qualities in one’s mind.
a suitable associate to the degree that associating with that being leads to the decrease of harmful qualities in one’s mind and the increase of beneficial qualities in one’s mind.
Furthermore, it seems to me that:
disassociating from the wise and associating with the foolish, one lives unhappily.
disassociating from the foolish and associating with the wise, one lives happily.
Therefore, I am interested in:
disassociating from those who are unsuitable for me to associate with.
associating with those who are suitable for me to associate with.
For whatever subjective or objective reasons, I realize that I would most likely not get along with all beings equally well - and that is okay! However, without trying or putting in the effort to look at all, it seems like I will be significantly less likely to find any more suitable beings to associate with.
Having found at least one such kalyanamitta already and seeing the (profound) value gained from this, I think that I regret not looking more suitably and proactively earlier on. To learn from and prevent this regret from recurring, I seem to feel a sense of urgency to renew my search for kalyanamittas, perhaps this time more globally, with whom it would be most suitable for me to associate.
Thank you in advance for your valuable time and careful consideration.